Today is our second wedding anniversary. How can it be? In some ways, I feel like our wedding was just yesterday, and in just as many other ways it seems that we have been married forever.
Our second year of marriage was home to a lot of change and growth, the first change which was becoming puppy parents. Just two days before our first anniversary the cutest, most fluffy golden retriever puppy became ours forever. Lincoln Rockefeller Davis is a bright light in our life and we love him big. Lincoln has taught us so much about love because of his unashamed love for the two of us, but also because he requires a gracious love when he does all of the bad things. We learned that love is always the answer, even when love looks like discipline. We had to learn how to raise Lincoln together and I truly believe we’ll be a little bit more prepared for parenthood because of this. Having Lincoln has also strengthened our selflessness as he is now a third factor in all of our decisions. Puppy parenting was an incredible element of our second year and we are really grateful to have Lincoln along for the ride.
After living with Jordan’s family for a month, we moved to Champaign on July 3rd, 2016. It didn’t seem like a huge deal to me that day, but as we become more and more settled here I’m realizing that I never paid a proper good-bye to my beloved home town. I’ll miss Tremont forever, but Champaign has been really good to us. There is a lot of life for us to live here and we don’t want to miss it. We love attending Illinois athletic events, the night life is kind of amazing, there are more parks and dogs than people, and don’t even get me started on the restaurant scene. We got plugged into a church and small group pretty quickly, and we’ve become close friends with a pretty great group of people. There are many things about home that I’m always going to miss, but I’m so grateful that God brought us here.
Becoming puppy parents and moving to a new place was a lot of physical change to start our second year. What followed was a lot of spiritual and emotional change. I hesitate to say that this year everything clicked, because I know there’s a whole crap ton of stuff that we have yet to experience and learn from. However, I do believe that our length of love has allowed us to arrive at a few marital understandings a bit early – eighth grade sweetheart perks?
Leaving our home church was incredibly (privately) hard on both of us. At our home church, we heard the scriptures preached without apology every week and we depended on that teaching to stretch and strengthen our faith in Christ. Through the process of finding a new church we had to do a little more leg work. We were studying the bible at home a lot more, prayer became more than a necessity and we started to see Christ in all things like we never had before. I credit this wonderful year entirely to our transformation of faith – we love, because He did. As we begin our third year I hope there is even more nose-in-bible mornings, praying over our home and through the hard things and a constant awareness that it’s all for His glory.
When I started looking at every moment as an opportunity to honor the Lord, I started becoming a better wife. All of the sudden I noticed that more often than not I wasn’t treating Jordan like the most important person in my world. I was usually correcting him, taking out my frustrations and fears on him or demanding absolute perfection from him. Yikes. I was reminded of the way I felt when we had broken up in college – would I treat him this way back then, when I was crushed at the thought of not being his forever? I still feel like I fail at this more than not, but I’m trying every day to pursue him like a dying man looking for water in the desert.
And guess what happened when I started treating my husband the way he deserves to be treated? QUEEN. I started feeling like a queen at all times. He was sending me off to pedicures, doing laundry without me asking him to, whisking me to dance in the kitchen and all of the other goodness that I felt so undeserving of. One night I looked at him and just said, “I think I know what’s working for us. We’re trying to out-serve each other.” Yep, that’s really it. Marriage is a commitment to die to yourself every day, and I will gladly do that for Jordan Michael Davis, accepting his grace when I fail most of the time.
Jordan is an incredibly kind person. Slow to anger, slow to speak. My feelings and emotions are usually made obvious within seconds of any given situation, but my husband… he has an ocean of grace just for me. He wants my full attention when we’re together, and rightfully so. Jordan slows me down and reminds me that most things don’t really matter so I don’t need to get worked up. He is delusionally my biggest fan, so much so that I sometimes spend five minutes convincing him that I really am terrible at XYZ. I want to be more like him and I definitely hope our babes are little mini hims! I’m so happy that my favorite person in the world, puppy daddy and best friend is the man I’m married to. Thanks, God!
Here’s to year three. Can it get better than this?
Image from our wedding day captured by Deidre Lynn Photography