As you all well know, this will be our first Christmas as a married couple. So far the season of preparation has been an absolute blast and I completely understand why this special milestone has so much hype.
Jordan and I have been dating since we were 13 so this is not our first holiday rodeo in terms of sharing family. We’ve dedicated our time every which way, sometimes choosing to be with our respective families instead of being together. Through conversation with friends and personal experience, I know that the concept of “splitting” time can be accompanied with a lot of apprehension that leads to bitterness.
There are certainly moments during the Christmas season when I feel a twinge of guilt that I’m not with “my” family because I am spending time with others, but through the years I have learned that at the end of the day…it was just a day. For those of you who struggle with this guilt, I hope my suggestions help you overcome that this year!
- Be Present. Wherever you are celebrating and whoever you are celebrating with, be with those people. This is the hardest one for me to overcome!
- Be a Blessing. Look for something you can do to make this time more relaxing and enjoyable for a loved one. For me, this often includes holding babies and I’m so okay with that.
- Be Grateful. There are so many people all over the world who spend Christmas alone or in tragedy. I remember that whenever I’m wishing to be somewhere else.
This year we have a new element that we’ve not quite figured out. The two of us are now a family and it’s important to us that we celebrate as one. We still haven’t decided what this will look like, but I’ll be sure to let you know. More than anything we are just enjoying the gift of togetherness and looking forward to being with family near and far, many of whom we haven’t seen since our wedding!
I’d love to know how you share your time during the Christmas season. Leave your experience in the comments!